People have been telling me for a long time that I should never settle for anything less than I deserve. I think most were referring to my love life but I’ve used it as a guideline for pretty much all of my life choices. Honestly, it took me a decent amount of time to even figure out what “settling” looked like, but I’ve learned that there is something, or someone, for every person on this Earth. Believe me, I know how easy it is to just give in and accept something less than the best, but I promise that option is just feeding into the short-term and won’t do much for your future.
We’ve all got a jerk or two in our relationship history- the one that all our friends hated but we stayed with anyway because of some ridiculous reason like “he’s really hot” or “the sex is really good” and then when we broke up, we realized how much better off we were without him. There are times in our lives when settling for a schmuck is just easier than being alone and trying to find the right guy, and yet, that always ends up being the better choice. Of course, not every relationship is right but that does not equal being in an abusive, or emotionally degrading relationship.
Same thing goes for a job. There is no job in the world that you should stay for if it compromises your personal values. I don’t mean quit when you face a challenge- that’s also settling- but forcing yourself to perform in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable or small will do nothing for your career. Having a job that damages your confidence and self-esteem doesn’t further your future, I promise.
We’ve all heard the phrase “don’t make someone a priority who only makes you an option.” It’s totally a mom phrase but mom is right, and it applies to anything in your life- careers, friendships, romantic relationships. If you settle for less, progress gets further away. Think of it in terms of steps: if your goal is ten steps away, and each time you settle you are taking one step back, then that goal is going to keep getting further away. And if each life goal or choice is tied to another, you could end up even further back. I’m not saying every choice has to be leaps forward (that would be a little crazy), but each one should somehow fit into your progress path.