2018 has brought us a lot of trends and some of the biggest dating trends to date. Ghosting, breadcrumbing, stashing, and now the latest trend, orbiting. No, it doesn’t have anything to do with space, but if you aren’t careful you might find yourself a victim of orbiting.
Unfortunately, when it comes to online dating there is no easy way to escape these trends. Have you ever met someone, you two hang out? You have an awesome time together, and request each other on social media. Or you might know this person and you two already follow each other on social media. So, you two make plans to go out on a date. You two go out and you never hear from that person again. You think you’re being ghosted and technically you are, but there’s something else happening. You’ve been swept up in an orbiting cycle.
Orbiting is when the person you’ve been seeing has stopped all communication with you, but they still keep tabs on you. They watch your Instagram story, view your Snapchat, like your tweets, and continue to follow you on social media But wait, what’s the point of all this if they don’t plan on talking or seeing you again? They’re keeping you in their orbit, which in this case is social media. They’re interested in you, but not interested in you if that makes sense. People like to know what others are up to even if they never plan on engaging with you. There’s something about knowing what you’re doing that’s satisfying enough.
We aren’t sure why this keeps happening other than the fact that it’s easier to be on social media rather than having a face to face conversation. They want you to know that they’re interested, but that’s as far as it goes. The only way to not be a victim of orbiting, is to not add them to your social media accounts. That way if you never hear from them again you don’t have to worry about them keeping tabs on you. It’s hard not to add people to your social media circle, but until you’re sure about the person or you two become friends avoid it.